Divorce. To Be or Not To Be
Ustadh Abdul Wahab Saleem discusses a very touchy topic which is Divorce and what leads to it. He shares a very funny story which happened to someone in real life. A man divorced 5 women within a matter of minutes. Do you know how? Watch the video!!!
There is a positive co-relation between language and culture. Since Muslim youths born and educated in state schools with monolingual non-Muslim teachers have become monolingual Brits, therefore, they have adopted native culture of divorce and other evils associated with this cuture.
Bilingual Muslim children need state funded Muslim schools with bilingual Muslim teachers as role models during their developmental periods. There is no place for a non-Muslim child or a teacher in a Muslim school. There are hundreds of state and church schools where Muslim children are in majority. In my opinion, all such schools amy be opted out as Muslim Academies.
A Muslim is a citizen of this tiny global village. He/she does not want to become notoriously monolingual Brit.
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I have been married 3 months and the relationship with my in laws is rocky especially my mother in law. I feel we have no common ground. I come from a peaceful and religious household to a household that is always speaking loudly and never prays. This is very disheartening. I knew all of this and my parents warned me but I still wanted to go ahead and marry my husband knowing he is not a model Muslim.
After having a sit down with my husbands parents with the support of my husband and expressing how I feel I thought I would feel better. But still I feel the same if not worse. I have a sense of guilt in my heart as to why I agreed to this marriage.
I love my husband but I don’t think I can grow as a Muslim. I worry when I have kids they will not have the best role model as parents/family.
My heart wants to end this marriage but I don’t whether that is the right step to take
Assalam alaikum,
My dear sister, please do not act hastily. You dont have children yet and this is a good thing. My advice to you IF you love your husband is to stay with him. Move away from his family where you can both have space and insha Allah encourage your husband to pray with you etc etc. Do not have children until he is praying regularly and is an all round better muslim. Dont give up on him help him and you will get the reward insha Allah.
My case was very much similar to urs. ..and am in deep regrets. …but again am still grateful that I’ve Alhamdulilah being Blessed with two lovely kids….but still now what…it becomes even difficult to separate ur kids from their father. …it only ends u up in more misery….May Allah Have Mercy on us….may i plz ask u if u don’t mind what decision did u take finally…..
I have been married just 1 week and I feel unhappy. I am a revert and I have not been practising well and I am a mother of one child (previous marriage – divorced few years back). The man I married a week ago told me he is a religious man, but what he did not tell me is that he was a smoker, he also has Diabetes and health issues. He coughs constantly (most likely due to being a smoker) and he can barley breathe well during a nights sleep and I end up sleeping on the sofa. He works all hours and barley manages to come to the home till 9/10/11pm at night and my child is disappointed that he has yet to spend much time with him. He criticises me a lot in housework/ lack of cooking skills/ told me to solve my own work issues out as he has his own problems and has his own stress. Even sex is not nice between us and he doesn’t make me feel nice. He at one point suggested I think about Female Genital Mutilation telling me if is hygenic and good for me to do it – I was so shocked. I feel he is not interested to pleasure me or satisfy me and I began to feel concerned as I began to think what if he and I had female kids – would he try to force me to take my kids abroad to do that to them – because there’s no way I would do it. Since marrying him I have feel so drained and unwell and have been sick the full week of the marriage so far with a heavy cold/ fever/ vommiting and he was reluctant to even come look after me then later one day he messaging me saying he was coming and brought he meds/ gift/ and said sorry. But I just feel I don’t think I can stay with him – we seem to be arguing so much and I continually am feeling annoyed by him and like I am moody all the time with him. He does Rukyah and Hijama and its all he talks of and I feel bored of listening to the subjects over and over and his phone rings a lot in the evening time. He is moving premises and says things will settle down. But I also found he still a few days ago had his old profile on the marriage site still open and was checking it – I challenged him and he said he never said he was going to close it. I began to wonder why he married me then? It just doesn’t feel like how I imagined marriage would be. I feel so disappointed and I am dreading the idea of having to provide him with sex again. I don’t know what is wrong with me but he annoys me so very much. He has a kind heart and he is good financially with me and my child but he is constantly lecturing and criticising and making fun. I am happy when he leaves the house and goes to his job, just to relax in my home and recover from an entire week of stress and being unwell. His health issues seem pretty worrying, he’s 37 yet he sounds like 47(gritty deep voice most likely due to heavy smoking) – yet he managed to come home with over a kilo of sausages yesterday – there’s only 3 of us, which will not help with his diabetes – as I have been reading up that Diabetics need a healthier diet. He cooked us Spag Bol but took the biggest portion ever, how will he improve his health if he continues in this way. I don’t think we are understanding each other well at all and I can’t help but think I may have made a mistake… I’m so tearful, drained and tired and it’s been just 1 week. What’s wrong with me?