5 Intimacy Revival Tactics – Quality Time (Part 2 of 5)
2. QUALITY TIME
Plan activities that you can do together so that you can spend quality time with your spouse. You may like to take walks together or go for a swim or exercise together. Perhaps you are involved in the community, so you may volunteer together. Sometimes we look forward to girls’ nights or girls’ day out but overlook the best friend we married. Maybe he’s not big on shopping, but you can look for common interests and do them together. Watch a comedy together because laughing together boosts connection. Have dinner together – it doesn’t matter if you talk about the day or just sit silently – it’s still quality time.
In the bedroom, you may like to read a romance novel together, or just spend time in bed together before you go to sleep. You could have Saturday morning sleep-in where you just rest in bed together before starting your day. This is still emotional intimacy because you are speaking your spouse’s love language, and may progress to physical intimacy.
Schedule in couple time, family time, friend time and alone time. Have a regular date night with your spouse where you court one another. This is one-on-one time where you give each other undivided attention. Ditch the distractions by putting away your phone, getting a baby-sitter and focus on each other. Have face-to-face conversation, be light-hearted and laugh together. Look into each others’ eyes and reminisce about good times and dream about the future.
Enjoy your time together, as this will foster trust and intimacy. You can schedule in intimate play after date nights as well, or you can be spontaneous. Alternatively, book weekends away for just the two of you or book a hotel for a night on a regular basis. It gives you both something to look forward to and ensures you give your spouse quality time.
