Assalamu ‘alaykum. My parents had told me to not get married until i finished my college diploma program. I agreed and waited, rejecting multiple prospects to stay focused. After finishing my college program and expressing my wishes to “start looking” and get married, they said no because a college diploma is not enough, and that I have to have a […]
So you found the girl you want to get married to, and you go and propose. You make sure your hair is combed, teeth are brushed and you wear the best of your garments and get ready to meet her family. In your head you may be thinking and rehearsing every possible situation or just being relaxed and making your […]
Most of life is habitual. You do the same things you did yesterday, the day before and every day for the last month. Habits, good or bad, make you who you are. The key is controlling them. If you know how to change your habits, then even a small effort can create big changes in your relationships. It is not […]
What is love? Love, according to the Oxford dictionary is, “a strong feeling of affection.” If this definition is analysed, love could be many things; love could be desire or love could be lust. To go more in depth, love can be of many types; love for yourself, love for objects, love for desire, motherly love and the list goes […]
Envy (Hasad) means resenting the blessings of Allah that are enjoyed by the one who is envied, and wishing that it be taken away. In other words, the envier wishes that the blessing be taken away from the one whom he envies, whether the blessing comes to him or not. So the envier resents the blessing of Allah and wishes […]
Once the ‘honeymoon’ phase of a marriage is over and the reality of marriage sets in, many small issues may arise that one needs to address right away before they become larger and lead to separation or divorce. Amongst these problems is housework or chores. The name itself brings about dreaded memories amongst some of spending many, many laborous hours […]
We get a lot of questions regarding Istikhaarah (prayer for guidance) and how to perform it. Seems like this practice is completely neglected until it’s time for choosing a marriage partner. And because many of us don’t practice this on a regular basis, we don’t really know how to perform it, nor what to expect. There are some serious misconceptions […]
It is common for scholars and teachers to be asked for their advice on certain topics and situations. As Muslims we put a trust in our scholars and teachers as long as they are not doing anything against the Quran and the Sunnah of our beloved Messenger (Prophet Muhammad saws). Often the advice that is sought is related to topics […]
Have you ever wanted everything in your life to be perfect? Have you ever found yourself wanting the perfect marriage, the perfect kids, and to be the perfect daughter? Do you want the perfect life? If this is you then you definitely have a problem called ‘The Super Muslim Woman Syndrome’. You want to be a perfectionist, though perfectionism doesn’t […]
Compatibility by definition is as an adjective used for relationship that is “capable of existing or living together in harmony”. What a big and heavy word if you really think about it. It encompasses so much that we desire and it includes as part of its explanation even bigger words like existing, living and harmony. As such we realize that […]
