Consummating the Marriage in Islam
During the hectic time of the wedding many loose sight of the acutal Nikah that is to take place privately between the new couple. In all the hoopla of the wedding they are not fully prepared mentally, physically and emotionally for one of the most important part of their new lives together. Below is a brief summary for your benefit on how you should consummate your marriage.
1. Be Kind to the Bride
The husband should be extremely kind to his wife especially on the first night of the marriage as she is going through the biggest change in her life. She may be nervous and uncooperative for not only the first night but a few nights. So as a husband you should be very patient, and try talking to her and creating an attachment emotionally with her before you consummate your marriage with her. Also the husband should not try to force himself upon the wife.
2. Praying Two Raka’ahs Together
It is recommended that the married couple pray two rakaah together in Jama’ah (congregation).
3. Making Supplication to Allah to Bless you as a Couple
After praying two raka’ahs together it is recommended for the husband to make du’a to Allah for blessing him and his wife and their marriage.
4. Supplication before Intercourse
Ibn Abbas may Allah be pleased with him Reported that Allah’s Messenger SAW said; “When one of you wants to approach his wife, if he says: With the name of Allah . O Allah, keep Satan away from us, and keep him away from what you grant us. If it is then decreed that they have a child (from that intercourse), Satan will never harm it.” (Recorded by Bukhari and Muslim)
5. Clear Prohibitions in regards to Intercourse
i. Anal Sex is completely Prohibited
ii. Sexual (Vaginal) Intercourse during Menses is Prohibited
iii. Disclosing the secrets of the intimacy to others is Prohibited
Muslim Harmony – Advice Central Team
Jazaaki Allahu khair for the rdmineer of our duties and of what we are aspiring to as Muslim wives. Just for me, personally, though, I’ve read advice like this a million times but never feel like it’s addressing the situation in a way that shows me, concretely, what steps I can take to get nearer to where I should be. When I read statements like this A woman does not get as much respect anywhere in the world as she does in her husband?s home: there, she?s the queen of her throne, elegant and ethereal I feel like the writer must be talking about wives on some completely different planet, and that her advice is based on some fantasy-world that’s a million years away from my actual life. And also, this bit? it is woman?s innate nature to be the master of her home. As manager, guard and coordinator, she happily does the household chores and caters to her family?s needs . Well, I can think of two possibilities. Either I’m a freak of nature and am lacking some natural womanly delight in washing the dishes, or else the writer of this article got a little carried away, shall we say (or, I guess, is lucky enough to have a person or machine who washes the dishes for her). I *do* wash the dishes, sure, because they certainly won’t get done if I don’t do them. And I’m happy to do it, sure, because I want the house to be a good home for my daughter. But I sure as heck am not washing them because of some innate womanly love for household chores.
True talk my sister.
Asalam u alikum
helpful website… in the fast paced modern world you may some times loose touch about what Islam says about marriage and legalities of marriage and consummating the marriage… really helpful esp for me as I am getting married two weeks from now…
thanks
Faisal