3 Things Men Do Wrong in the Beginning of a Relationship
Men can be clueless. Unfortunately, there’s no clearer example of this than when a man first enters a relationship. The beginning of any relationship is an important time, and often the first impression you make on a prospective partner determines how far the relationship will go. It’s important not to ruin things for yourself by making the wrong move.
For many men, what exactly constitutes the wrong move is a mystery, meaning there are plenty of errors made in the first days and weeks of getting to know a woman. Check out these 3 things men do wrong in the beginning of a relationship and see if you’re guilty of any of them.
1. Stalk their partner on social media
2. Not being a gentleman
Rule number one of dating is to always act like a gentleman. This is the best time to bring out the manners. Hold doors, stand when she stands and offer a guiding hand in crowds. Take her comfort into mind when the night turns chilly and never ask too personal of questions before you know her. Your good manners will impress your date and make her feel like you value her. Men that forego the manners not only make their dates feel unvalued, they also put off the wrong impression regarding their level of interest. Treating your date like a friend, rather than someone you are romantically interested in is a dangerous decision. You may find yourself in the friend zone and you may wind up missing out on a great potential wife. The good manners you exhibit now will set the stage for your entire relationship, so make sure to assert yourself as the protector and gentleman she’s always wanted and not the brother she never had.
3. Acting possessive
Men are naturally protective of their girlfriends and wives. Unfortunately, there’s a fine line between protective and possessive. If you’ve been dating a woman for 5 minutes and her phone buzzes with a text from Yousef, it’s probably not a good idea to grab her phone and demand answers. Acting too possessive can scare a woman off, so over reacting about a text from her brother, uncle or friend can destroy a new relationship. Remember that protective can be good, but possessive is always bad. Make her want to be with you and you’ll never have a reason to be jealous. Instead of demanding answers every time her phone buzzes, make a benign statement like, “Do you need to answer that?” and she’ll probably explain.
These three common mistakes can irreversibly damage a fledgling relationship. Make sure to avoid them at all costs and you’ll never risk running off the woman of your dreams.
Written by Mira. Click here for the Original article
Ma sha Allah! Very nice and thought provoking article, but these things equally apply to women. Being too possessive about your husband in the initial stages of relationship and asking him too many questions related to past, social media, etc. lead to loosing the essence of trust. Taking care of these aspect can reduce the chances of mis understanding between new couples.
More over the culture in which our spouse is being bought up should also be kept in mind. Their ethics might be incorrect but instantly trying to change them and their values and imposing our values, beliefs on them might lead to stubbornness and damage in the long term.
May Allah Ta’ala makes our spouses coolness of our eyes and unites us in dunya and re-unites in Jannah with khayr. Ameen